After a relationship ends, it is common to look back and recognize certain red flags we overlooked early on. Being more mindful and less afraid of seeing the truth can spare heartbreak. In her article on this subject, Sara Crolick identifies these common and important red flags to pay close attention to:
1 - Anger: Partners who have a quick temper and blame the other for their anger are trouble. "Expressing anger, even by yelling, can release tension, frustration and pain—if done in a safe manner; but it should not be used as a method of control in any situation".
2 - Lying/Secretive behavior: "If, on a regular basis, your partner refuses to discuss other aspects of their day, keeping details of his or her whereabouts or activities from you, this could be indicative of a greater problem". Pay attention to cell phone and email activity. Don't be afraid to ask to see.
3 - Changes in Mood/Behavior: "Shifts in mood can mean many things, but they’re undoubtedly a red flag for a bigger problem." If you see changes, address it right away and head on. Ask pointed questions as to the source. Vague or avoidant answers means trouble.
4 - Possessive/Controlling behavior: Overly inquisitive questions as to your whereabouts likely indicates control. "If your partner’s interest in your day-to-day activities seems a little much, it may be cause for concern." Excessive texts and calls, checking up on you and not being supportive of your relationships with friends and family are dangerous signs.
5 - Not apologizing: Healthy partners have the ability to admit wrong doing and apologize. "If your partner refuses to apologize when he or she has done something wrong, this is a red flag for a perception of inequality in the relationship." Apologies aren't always an admission of guilt and wrongdoing. Knowing how to apologize for hurting the others feelings or having a misunderstanding is a vital relationship skill. Someone who does not possess this skill is likely not relationship material.
For the full article, click below.
- www.goodmenproject.com -
2 - Lying/Secretive behavior: "If, on a regular basis, your partner refuses to discuss other aspects of their day, keeping details of his or her whereabouts or activities from you, this could be indicative of a greater problem". Pay attention to cell phone and email activity. Don't be afraid to ask to see.
3 - Changes in Mood/Behavior: "Shifts in mood can mean many things, but they’re undoubtedly a red flag for a bigger problem." If you see changes, address it right away and head on. Ask pointed questions as to the source. Vague or avoidant answers means trouble.
4 - Possessive/Controlling behavior: Overly inquisitive questions as to your whereabouts likely indicates control. "If your partner’s interest in your day-to-day activities seems a little much, it may be cause for concern." Excessive texts and calls, checking up on you and not being supportive of your relationships with friends and family are dangerous signs.
5 - Not apologizing: Healthy partners have the ability to admit wrong doing and apologize. "If your partner refuses to apologize when he or she has done something wrong, this is a red flag for a perception of inequality in the relationship." Apologies aren't always an admission of guilt and wrongdoing. Knowing how to apologize for hurting the others feelings or having a misunderstanding is a vital relationship skill. Someone who does not possess this skill is likely not relationship material.
For the full article, click below.
- www.goodmenproject.com -
